These past few months have been ones of great change for me – change that has taken me away from the pages here. Change comes to us all every day – and with it - the opportunity to move into other spaces, to alter the spaces we are in, to create new and more vibrant spaces.
Change can happen in an instant or it can be a gradual process. It can happen to you directly and alter your world, or you can see it happening around you to the ones you love without being able to do a thing about it.
Recently one of my sons lost his job – along with hundreds of others – when the company he worked for ‘went broke’ (his words). He was the head of his department and carried a lot of responsibility. He also has a mortgage and a family to take care of, and it was a great relief and fortunate for him when his phone rang hot all day with offers from other companies for him to work with them. I was watching from the sidelines, and I knew that my thoughts could impact on his situation, and mine, for he is a part of my world. There is no way of me knowing for certain how worrying about the outcome could have affected it however, because I chose instead to detach from my fears, to watch and contain them, and to trust 100% in my son and his journey. I watched him go through the process of change and manage his fear well.
My son looked at all the job offers, for which he was very grateful for, and I knew he felt overwhelmed and concerned he may not choose the right one. A few days down the track he was able to call me and we talked about the world and the direction it was moving into – where the security for the future might lie. I kept reassuring him that the right job was there for him, pointing out to him that at some level he had called it in. In my world, there are no mistakes – everything is planned at a higher level, however, we definitely influence those plans through our response to every single experience. In every moment we have the capacity to create light energy or dark energy – to expend or expand energy through our response to a situation. The temptation to get caught up in the trauma and darkness and to become a victim to one’s circumstance is always tempting – however, it only leaves us empty, in a place of fear. Instead, we can choose another way. A way where we acknowledge our loss, our fear, our sadness, but we are not consumed by it.
Recently a friend of mine died in a tragic, freak accident. This man was well known, greatly admired, and most of all - loved, and as I stood amongst hundreds of his friends and his family at his memorial service, some of whom were also my life-long friends, there was the temptation for us all to be consumed by such a great loss. However, his brother reminded us that his death had brought us together, and we could do better than to give in to the grief and sadness that was tempting us. Instead we chose to celebrate this wonderful man’s life together. There were many tears shared however, tears of sadness and joy, and my heart opened as I watched the men in the room weep with the women. This man will be missed, but his life has been full and not a moment of it wasted. We were all there to support his family in their loss, their fear, their sadness, and to assist them not be consumed by it, and they were also there to teach us how walk strongly at such times.
There has never been a time of such great and swift change as there is right now. Technology enables us to witness and be part of change all round the world like never before. The on-line web is a medium for us to connect with each other from all parts of the planet. The pace of life for many seems furious at times, and at times it seems we are forever on the move. There are others who live in routine and certainty and they watch the change happen around them. As the changes happen around and to you, remember that you have the opportunity to create light or dark energy with your thoughts, feelings, words, intentions, actions, and reactions. Ku Ala, the fifth of the Eight Ways that I teach, reminds you to Be Present with yourself, with time, and with the spaces around you – your surroundings and environment, to be a great watcher and observer of yourself and your life. Remember, you have the capacity to create internal change at every moment in your response to the external changes that surround you. You only have two choices in your response – one will expend energy – the other will expand it, and at times it is worth expending energy in order to expand it.