As a group of nine, we entered the world between worlds as we ventured into the forest surrounding Father Mountain. Someone had kindly placed a staff at the Permission Tree, where each on of us for safe and clear passage into the ‘other’ worlds. One of the women was glad of the staff to lean on, and we set off in groups of two and three to explore the them of “My tribe… I belong”. We had spent an hour opening sacred circle, connecting with each other and the nature spirits and spirit of the mountain, asking for the guardians of each major direction of Self – Spirit, Body, Heart and Mind, to hold and guide the process ahead. Kookaburra joyfully greeted us at the beginning and at the end of ceremony. We had shared a beautiful song that we created together with our instruments, and were well fed and watered before setting out on this adventure together. For the first leg of the journey, I was leading the way with my staff.
Not long on the forest path, the story of "My tribe... I belong." began to unfold:
When we wear masks that have come from experiences in the past that are imprinted strongly on our Wounded Heart, to protect ourselves, we will attract others to us who are also masked, and it may take time to decide if they are part of our tribe, or not. Woundings can bring us into our heart space when we have taken the time to work through and transcend them – transforming false beliefs into the truth of who we are. If we are brave enough to celebrate our differences, and to walk strongly in our truth, we are coming from the space of the True Heart, and can feel safe to take of the masks.
Finding your ‘true’ tribe can sometimes be quiet a long journey. Those of your tribe don’t always show up in a familiar way, and you might have to look beyond the masks, taking time to build relationships to decide if those who walk beside you are of your ilk, your tribe. The journey to find and feel like you belong amongst your tribe may be one of Self discovery, and self-acceptance, and at times you may choose to walk alone to be true to yourself.
As we take on the journey of life and discovery, the older members of our tribe stand strong beside us to support us, and at times they dig deep to share their nutrients with the younger members of the tribe, to help support them through tough times. Mother Earth of course is always there in her many forms in nature, ready to nurture us all in so many ways.
Ceremony and rites of passage can support us into transition, and for your men this may be away from the mother, and toward the father, as they often craved a deeper connection with the masculine. This is a craving for connection with your tribe, and can happen for young women as well, and for some, it may be a life-long journey of finding out who you really are beneath the masks, your own and your ancestors, and where you belong. This journey is both and internal and external one.
The path of finding your tribe, as a young person, might require you to separate out from your primary caregivers, and rebel at times – stepping into the fire, where you may get burnt. However your family, who you may not always see as your tribe, and the strong, healthy values and spiritual principles you have created and developed to support yourself, will hold you strong in love until your find your way with confidence and ease. While family members may seem very different to you, there may be strong bonds of love possible none the less. There will be some family values that you will keep, and others that you will discard along the way as life teaches you another way more in alignment with your truth. Creating space for young family members to step out and find their own way allows them to one day to become the head of their own household. Ceremony and rites of passage can assist this process and help to temper the blazing fire that destroys and burns at times of independence and separation, perhaps creating a camp fire energy to sit around instead, or a healing sacred fire energy of truth and love.
When you turn the corner, away from the beliefs that have persisted from the past that are holding you back, or away from a drama that has distracted you, you will do well to rest and restore your energy, finding a serene and peaceful place within that comes from stillness and silence. In quiet spaces of introspection, now looking inwardly rather than outwardly, you come to understand that a major part of the journey of finding your tribe and where your belong, it to learn to trust yourself, and to be prepared to take risks in life – stepping into the fire. However, being aware that you could also do this in a space of stillness by stepping out of the fire, graciously accepting the invitation to rest and be still, and trusting that you, and those whom you love around you, will find your way. In this place of stillness and deeper knowing, you can conserve your energy by being present in the moment, until this time of unrest around you has fully passed.
When I am trusted by my tribe, I am free to run.
Realising now that our family of origin may not be your tribe, and your ‘tribe’ can change as you have new experiences, and that that is ok, you can choose to let go of having to see things in a particular way, and trust Spirit in the silence, in the present moment. The energy of Spirit – High Wisdom – of the Grandfathers and Grandmothers, is solid and trustworthy; “Commitment to my faith is my rock”.
In this solid connection with the Great Spirit within and around you in all things, you decide to no longer be afraid of life, and are prepared to explore and take risks, to step into the fire. In this place of the True Heart knowing your power and confidence comes through your faith and trusting in your dreams, and the “Fire of the True Heart, rather than the Fire of the Wounded Heart (the fire of hell!)”
Now coming to a place where you can look out to the future with broader vision that is driven by trust rather than fear, you can clearly see that there is abundance all around us, and as parents we can raise our children to have an independent voice, giving them permission to be different. We can allow ourselves to create structures and paradigms around us that reflect us as individuals, and our chosen values. We may choose to create our own tribal laws and culture, trusting in the Inner Voice, while creating freedom and space for individuality and difference within our relationships. We can learn to listen in order to understand rather than to be ready to reply. In this way, we create abundance and bountiful energy between us and the ones we walk with and love – our tribe.
In this place of belonging we can be sure that when we speak our truth, we will not be abandoned by our tribe. We will be in a place of self-leadership and self-responsibility, and open to receiving as well as giving, creating boundaries around us that in turn create balance in all areas of our life. In this place of inner strength and self-worth, we are prepared to do what we want to do for us at times, not always for others – here we have a voice of our own. Remembering to have fun, to allow and create the joy of life at every opportunity, and call in the help you need from the ‘other’ worlds to assist and guide you on your way. Look to Snake to guide you and to teach you how to move with ease and grace on your path of life as she teaches you to:
· Not fear that which may never happen.
· Be courageous and prepared to take risks to help other is need, even when no one steps up to help you.
· Be mindful and ready to protect those of your tribe that you love.
· Be aware that there are predators who may consume those whom you love.
· Tread carefully and mindfully on your journey, and be aware that others can be just as afraid of you as you are of them, so let yourself be seen and heard in a gentle yet fearless way, so they can move away into a safe space to protect themselves if they need to, just as you too can choose to move away from those who are not of your tribe.
Overall, you can be sure to find you tribe and feel a sense of belonging when you choose to operate from the True Heart supported into freedom to take leaps of faith and form solid connections with the Divine and Nature that will assist you to glide gracefully alongside of life, rather that the Wounded Heart which holds you back in fear and trepidation and can destroy the goodness of life when ablaze with anger and fury and trapped in fear and limiting beliefs and ancestral patterns etched in the core of our DNA that don’t fit in this time or place. Take time to accept the invitation of stillness, reflection, and gratitude, stepping into Mountain energy, where you are strong and bountiful, with clear vision from every direction, and an empowered voice to maintain balance in your life. From this place, those who are of your tribe, will come to you.